Coping with no sleep

When you have a baby you expect some sleepless nights. After all,  you have to tend to their every need. As they get older, you sleep longer because they are kind enough to catch on to the idea that sleep is good. Some kids with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) just don't sleep. I have one of them.

Little E hasn't been sleeping through the night for the past year. His first year was rough then he seemed to adjust year two. He could stay asleep but had difficulty getting to sleep initially. Now at three, he falls asleep fast; he just doesn't seem to be able to stay asleep. Getting him to sleep is the easy part now because he no longer takes naps so he is exhausted. He just can't seem to stay asleep even though we give him Melatonin. We tried a weighted blanket but he doesn't seem to like it. We do the brushing, that doesn't seem to help much either though he allows me to do it more often now.  I have given massages, scalp rubs, joint compression, impact sensory play and what ever ideas we come across. He keeps waking up. Often around the same time, 1 am and awake until about 4 am, unless he winds up not going to sleep at all. Tonight I swaddled him because I heard that sometimes doing this can help kids with A.S.D. sleep. I am hopeful that this will work like it did when he was an infant but only time will tell.

I am sure E isn't making any real decision here regarding his lack of sleep. He has absolutely zero control here. He seems so tired but still very awake. I use the word loopy to describe him. He wants to be comforted and calmed but physically can seem to be battling his mind and body. He knows when it's time to sleep. At times, he will tell me "mommy, tired."  Our kids almost always go to sleep at the same time between 6:30 -7 pm. When he wakes up at night, I often can get him back to sleep but he doesn't stay asleep, he will keep waking. Sometimes these attempts to get him to lay back down or calm down can take hours. He only likes to sleep on the floor. VERY hard on my back. We do it because we want to give him what he needs but I worry we are ruining his sleep process and creating bad habits.

The worst part of his not getting sleep is that during the day E is so hard to deal with. He's cranky, indecisive, super moody, self injurious, aggressive and often has trouble focusing by the afternoon. He becomes impossible to deal with.  His behavior is out of control and it is so hard to remain calm at times. Let's not even get into how we the parents are doing with our lack of sleep. It is clearly not an easy situation to deal with. I want to help him. I just don't have all the information to do so and that for me is frustrating.

Coping with no sleep isn't a solution, so I try to do what I do best. Research, learn, and implement. Finding answers any way we can.

Articles and links:

Sleep Problems in Autism Explained

Put Sleep Difficulties to Bed: Advice for Parents with Children with Autism

The relationship between sleep and behavior in autism spectrum disorder (ASD): a review

Just a few helpful articles that led me down the rabbit whole. Theses articles provided me with some new information to go to my sons medical providers raising new questions and seeking more answers. I share them in hopes they can do the same for anyone actually reading this.

Should you have any suggestions for us to try and implement, please share with us what you have tried and how it worked out for you.


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